It had happened to me during the two pregnancies, almost thirty years ago, and it hadn’t happened to me until the menopause came: my body was in total turmoil, so I didn’t pay attention to it and I thought that the losses they would disappear over time. But the months went by and the situation showed no signs of improving: I buffered using normal sanitary towels, which however I was forced to change constantly and which did not retain the unpleasant smells as much as I wanted.
At work I never stopped more than necessary and I was careful to drink very little, then I began to go out less and less with friends and to decline, when possible, even invitations from family members. It was even more difficult with my husband, but using the excuse of not wanting to disturb him with my sudden nocturnal awakenings due to hot flashes, for a while I managed to not deal with the topic and avoid sleeping together. One evening, however, while we were chatting we burst out laughing and I wet the chair: in shame I ran to shut myself in the bathroom.
The next day I called my doctor and booked a visit.
So I discovered that I had stress incontinence and I understood how to manage it: I changed my diet, I avoid drinking before going to bed and above all I have found the right sanitary napkin for me. Now I am free to do what I did before, without feeling embarrassed when I am with others and, above all, with my husband.